We often liken the process of living our lives to being on a journey – we may even sometimes use the expression “I’m getting there”. But do we consider where it is we are actually going? And how will we know when we have arrived?
If we pay closer attention to this idea that we are ‘getting there’, we will see that it is tied up with a belief that we are not there yet – that there is a gap between where we are and where we want to be or where we think that we should be.
The subtle belief that we are ‘getting there’ keeps us in striving and doing mode as we try to get more things done, earn more money, get more stuff, find the perfect relationship, work on self-improvement etc. We become busy physically and mentally as the mind constantly notices the gap between where we are and where we want to be and this can generate feelings of unhappiness, dissatisfaction and anxiety.
There is nothing wrong with having goals and a healthy motivation in life but the problem is, we never actually ‘get there’ because we don’t know where ‘there’ is and the goal posts keep changing – we achieve or acquire some things but then we want more.
Instead of constantly telling ourselves that we are ‘getting there’ maybe we should keep reminding ourselves ‘I’m here’. We can embrace our dreams and still embrace who and where we are right now. After all, we are pretty amazing in our ability to think and feel and do, to appreciate, to laugh, to love and to connect and to inspire. So instead of being driven by automatic patterns and habits that keep us believing that something is wrong with our lives, we can choose to inhabit this moment, recognise the person that we are right now – creative, curious, alive. In this way, we open ourselves up to the sheer enjoyment and contentment that can be found right here, right now.